Protecting Children Online
Facts You Should Know....
The Internet is a wonderful vehicle for learning. Unfortunately,
it is also a power for predators who prey upon innocent children. Did
you know?
- In the U.S., 95% of schools are now connected to
the Internet
- One in five has been sexually solicited
- One in four has encountered unwanted pornography
- Close to 60% of teens have received an e-mail or
instant message from a stranger and half have communicated back
- Over 75% of Internet crimes involving sexual solicitations
of children and extra unwanted pornography is not reported to police
or parents
Most children know more about the Internet than adults
do. As a result, man do not supervise their children's Internet use. Here
are some surprising statistic.
- An estimated 20% of parents do not supervise their
children's Internet use.
- Only 52% of parents moderately supervise their children's
Internet use.
- Some 71% of parents stop supervising Internet use
by their children after their 14, yet 72% of all Internet-related
missing children cases involve children where years of age or older.
- Close to 62% of teens say their parents know little
or nothing about the web sites they visit.
Dangers Your Child Can Encounter
There are many dangers that your child can encounter while
surfing the Net or hanging out in chat rooms. Some web sites are offensive
and threatening because of their content. There are no rules that govern
the Internet, so anyone can set up a web sites for any purpose. Consequently,
there are sites that:
- Explain how to grow and process narcotics
- Advocate hate or anarchy
- Sell stolen goods
- Show how to make fake ID's or manufacture counterfeit
money
- Elicits personal information for illegal purposes
- Offer "get rich quick" schemes that put
your family at financial risk
There also bomb making sites and millions of pornographic
sites. Unfortunately, over 100,000 sites are involved in child pornography.
Almost innocent, legitimate topics can be related, or linked, to something
offensive. Chat rooms and newsgroups are available for every topic you
can imagine.
Chat Rooms
Chat rooms are probably the most dangerous areas on the
Internet. There are many topics that appear safe for children and teens
but, in reality, they are not. "Cyber-molesters" are not a new
breed of offender. They simply have a new medium to reach their prey --
the Internet. They pose as other children and gain the confidence of their
victims by chatting about the latest fashions, music and celebrities.
Chat rooms can lead to private conversations, e-mails, instant message
and photo exchanges. If your children talk chat rooms, chances are they
are talking to strangers.
Warning Signs
What are some indications that your child might be at
risk on the Internet? The signs could be as simple as excessive use of
the Internet (especially at night) or as frightening as your child actually
setting up a meeting with a stranger. Other things you should watch out
for include:
- Unsupervised time in chat rooms
- Downloaded photos of strangers
- Downloaded pornographic pictures
- Phone calls, gifts or letters from strangers
- Using an online account that belongs to someone else
- Changes in behavior and being secretive about online
activity
- Quickly turning off the computer or changing the
screen monitor when someone else enters the room
Supervise Your Children On The Internet
Parents need to educate themselves and become comfortable
with the Internet. Communicate the dangers and risks of being online with
your children. Supervise your children on the Internet just as you would
monitor what movies and TV shows they watch and places they go with their
friends.
You would not let your children open the door to a stranger,
so don't let them spend long hours online alone. Using products that can
be purchased in computer stores and on the Net, you can track your child's
use of the Internet and block objectionable material from reaching your
household. But remember, no product can fulfill all your needs. There
is no substitute for your involvement. Pay attention to your children
because, if you don't, someone else will.
Guideline's For Parent's To Reduce
Child's Risk Of Becoming A Victim Of Internet Criminals
Place your computer in a common area of the house. This
is probably the most important thing you can do. Do not let your children
be in their rooms all night on the Internet. The mere presence of parents
can have a tremendous effect on a child's online activities. It's much
more difficult for a computer sex offender to communicate with a child
when the computer screen is visible to a parent or other member of the
household.
Educate yourself about computers and the Internet. You
need to know how to use the Internet in order to know what your children
are doing on it. Take a basic computer class or buy a book about the Internet.
Check with your ISP (Internet Service Provider) for information on using
their services.
Spend time with your children online. Ask your children
how they use the Internet and have them teach you about their favorite
destinations. Make "surfing the Net" a family experience. Just
as you look for good television programs for your children, take the time
to find the best and most useful web sites for them.
Make reasonable rules and set time and use limits. Enforce
them. You should set guidelines about what your children can and cannot
do on the Internet. Try to understand their needs, interest and curiosity.
But, yo must set limits on when they may use the Internet and for how
long.
Educate yourself and your child about the dangers of the
Internet. Teach your children about sexual victimization and other potential
dangers of the Internet. Talk openly and honestly with your children about
what they are doing on the Net and what your concerns are.
Do not allow your child to go into private chat rooms,
especially when you are not present. Computer sex offenders will often
meet potential victims using chat rooms. Later, they'll attempt to communicate
with children b way of e-mail or instant messaging. If you can, try to
keep your child out of chat rooms altogether. You never know who is in
a chat room watching and waiting for a victim.
Reinforce the guiding rule, "Don't talk to strangers."
Tell your children what they are told online may, or may not, be true.
No matter how much their online "buddies" seem like friends
who share interests, they are still strangers. Remember, cyber molesters
pretend to be children.
Be sure to put internet accounts in your name and know
your child's passwords. It's also a good idea to know your children's
passwords and let them know you will check their online activity.
Never allow your children to arrange a face-to-face meeting
with someone they met online without your permission. Your child should
never meet a stranger alone face-to-face meeting.
Children should never give out their name, home address,
telephone number or school name. They should be aware that even naming
a friend, local sports team, shopping mall or community event could give
away their identities.
Do not let your child download or upload pictures without
your permission. Predators will often send photographs to children as
part of a grooming process to gain trust. The photographs may be pornographic
and may even involve child pornography.
Utilize a Internet Service Provider's parental controls
and commercial blocking and filtering software tools. Remember, while
parents should utilize monitors and filters, do not totally rely upon
them. There is no substitute for parental guidance and supervision.
Be sensitive to changes in your children's behaviors that
may indicate they are being victimized. If victimized online, children
may become withdrawn from their families or secretive about their activities.
Computer sex offenders work very hard at driving a wedge between children
and their parents.
Be alert to anyone who is paying an unusual amount of
attention to your children or giving them gifts. Most sexual offenders
are not just satisfied with the computer. Eventually, they want to talk
to the children on the telephone, engage in "phone sex" and
set up a meeting. A sexual offender may send letters, photographs, gifts
or packages to potential victims. Some may even send digital cameras and
plane tickets.
Be aware of other computers your children could be using.
Your children probably use computers at the library, school, friends house.
Talk to your children about other computers they use.
Be aware of your child using another person's screen name.
Watch for your child using an online account belonging to someone else
in order to bypass filters or monitors. Computer sex offenders may provide
potential victims with a computer account for communication wit them.
Develop a "contract" with your children about
their Internet use.
Review the use histories or logs of your computer to see
where your children have been. By clicking on Windows Explorer and checking
such files to see what's been erased. If you suspect your child is deleting
material, some programs will "undelete" files.
If you believe a child is in danger, immediately report
it. Leave the computer untouched. Report the crime to your local police,
or the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children Cybertip hotline
at 1-(800)-THE-LOST or www.missingkids.com.